If You Do These 5 Things You're Headed Toward Lasting Love

How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school?
See, there is an art and science to building healthy relationships, and it all starts with learning how to build trust.
People in healthy relationships know that maintaining your bond and practicing kindness are key elements to keeping love alive. If you know a happy, long-lasting couple, you've probably noticed the signs of a healthy relationship between them. Without a doubt, they practice the tips below.
These are indispensable love tips, written with romantic relationships in mind — but with a little modification, you can apply them to your friendships, family, and even work relationships, too.

You can practice this as a step-by-step guide to building a relationship that lasts, or pick-and-choose which lessons best apply to your relationship or marriage.

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without fear.

Don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself.
Learn to fight fairly. No name-calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and calm down.
Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I'm seeing the situation now?
The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth?
Once you're able to differentiate facts from feelings, you'll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.

3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.

Each of us is not a solo instrument. We're more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your "gut" saying?
For example: My mind is saying "definitely leave her," but my heart says "I really love her."

Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.

4. Develop compassion.

Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging.
Part of you might judge, but you don't have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoguing respectfully with your partner. Compassion build trust.
As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.

5. Create a "we" that can house two "I's."

The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually supportive relationship is being separate, yet connected.
In co-dependent, unhealthy relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or herself — compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual "I" contributes to creating a "we" that is stronger than the sum of its parts.

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